Monday, March 8, 2010

You Have Exactly the Life You Want

I'm always watching people. Big people, small people, famous people, normal people, rich people and poor people. I love them. All of them. Even if they annoy the crap out of me, I still find them fascinating. What I find most interesting is that no matter how much they complain and whine and moan every person has exactly the life that they want. I don't mean the life that they say that they want - I mean the life that deep down inside they think that they deserve. But Amy B, you may be saying, how can that be? I'm miserable and I hate my life! Let me explain.

First and foremost it has to do with your sense of self worth. Are you important to you? Are you your number one priority? I understand that with kids and family come certain responsibilities that you have to tend to. However don't make excuses to limit your happiness. You must first believe that you are deserving of the things that you want. Once you have that sense of self worth, like you are important and you do deserve to be happy and to have the life you WANT, then the rest will come more easily. Grab life by the horns and realize that life doesn't happen TO you, it happens because of you. Not days and seconds - those will happen either way. But moments, events, and experiences.

The next thing to look at is what you believe. Do you believe that the economy is so bad that you'll never pull out of your rut? Do you believe that you really are doing the best that you can do? No matter what you believe, that is what is going to carry over into your life. To you I say - is it? Are you? Are you using the full potential of the 16 hours that you are awake? We have 24 hours in a day - 8 are for sleeping (and you should get your full 8 hours. It will help you to be more well adjusted and can actually make you happier), 8 are for your 9 - 5 job that we all know you MUST have in order to survive. But what about the other 8 hours?

This is where the doing comes into play. First you believe: I can do more. I can make my life better. Say it over and over again. Write it on your mirror. Write it on a sticky note at your desk. Put where you can see it all the time. Constantly remind yourself of it. Now that you have that in your head and you have positive energy going out (yes I am leaning on The Secret here a little bit) sit down with a sheet of paper. What do you want? Me for example - I want a creative outlet where I can reach people and hopefully help someone. So what am I doing? Blogging. To some it may be silly and pointless but to me it lets me feel like I might be making a difference somewhere. Hopefully. You'll have to let me know. But maybe your goals aren't as simple as mine. Maybe you want to get out of debt. Maybe you want to find a fulfilling career. Maybe you want more money in the bank (who doesn't!). Maybe you just want more activities in your life, more friends, more vacations, etc etc. Write that down and really focus on it. Believe you can do more, you can achieve ________. And you know what? You will.

So now that you have your positive energy and your belief in yourself and you goal sit down and brainstorm your ways to make that happen. List ideas until they sound ridiculous. Keep going and going until you just can't think of another thing. And then think of 5 more. Look at your list and take out the 5 most ridiculous. Then go from there. Find however many you think you would like to work on. Highlight them, circle them, star them - whatever is going to keep them in your mind, do that. And then go for it in the other 8 hours.